But it was also partially about me. During my teens and early 20s, I was vehemently against dating Asian guys. When friends tried to pair me up with the one Chinese guy in elementary school, as if we were meant to be because I was the only Chinese girl, I quickly became annoyed. I scoffed and walked away, irritated at the unspoken expectation that I should to stick to my own race. Now, I can see that I was surrounded by many, many problematic messages about the desirability of Asian men or lack thereof , which in turn led me to believe that they were socially awkward, passive, unattractive—and therefore not dateable. But I also thought being paired with an Asian guy would make me seem more Asian, which I definitely did not want. Being with a white guy felt like stepping stone to being less different, or like it would make me more like the white girls I wanted to be like.
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Note to Steve Harvey : Plenty of women and men find Asian dudes hot. It only got worse from there. Great portraits on the vanityfair website at bit. Honored to be included in this feature. Pic: Sam Jones. What would you like for breakfast? Always be true to who you are, do what you love in life, and give zero fucks about what other people think.
Does Lena Dunham Have Yellow Fever?
A nd Lena Dunham might not be the only one. Specifically, it was usually Older Millennial women who were just now telling their stories. So maybe after decades of denigration, Asian guys are feeling a little love.
Note to Steve Harvey : Plenty of women and men find Asian dudes hot. It only got worse from there. Great portraits on the vanityfair website at bit.